人際溝通藝術A GOOD CONVERSATION
這樣「聊」就可以很有趣Talking with others can be fun for everyone
對多數人而言，一次美好的談話讓人心曠神怡；不過，可不是每次談天說地都會令人滿意。
有時候，在苦思話題之際，就會出現尷尬沉默。
有些聊天是單向的；一個人包辦所有提問，另一個人則只回應一兩個字。
好的交談需要至少兩個人一起讓對話持續進行；他們得說一些能讓別人回應且加以擴大詳述的話題。
要開啟對話，就問一些關於對方的事。
「你是做什麼的？」就是一個很好的話題。
你也可以簡單說：「談談你自己吧。」大多數人都會喜歡有聊到自己的機會。
當對方開始回答你的提問時，找一找你們的共同點。
如果你問某人週末過得如何，他可能會敘述自己週末做了哪些事。
當對方說完後，你可以給點評論，再聊聊自己做了什麼。
然後，還可以談談那些活動以及這個週末的計畫。
To have a good conversation is a pleasure for most people. But not every conversation is good. Sometimes there are awkward silences while people try to think of something to say. Some conversations are one-sided. One person asks all the questions, and the other just gives one-word answers. A good conversation needs two or more people to keep it going. They need to say things that others can answer and expand on.
To get the ball rolling in a conversation, ask something about the other person. "What do you do?" is a good place to start. You can also simply say, "Tell me about yourself." Most people love an opportunity to talk about themselves. As the other person begins to respond to your question, look for common ground. If you ask someone about their weekend, the person could talk about what they did. When the person finishes their story, you can comment and mention something that you did.
Then you can talk about those activities and your plans for the coming weekend.
awkward（adj.）不自然的；尷尬的
Their conversation became awkward very after Max told Edith he loved her.
awkward（adj.）笨拙；不靈巧的
When babies begin to walk, they look very awkward.
Sandy feels awkward when people watch her dance, so she only dances when she is home alone.
expand（v.）擴大；擴展；詳述；細談
Tom asked Martha to expand on her ideas. 詳細說明想法
Paulin plans to expand her restaurant by taking over the building next to hers. 把隔壁的房子頂過來，準備擴大餐廳
The population of India has expanded rapidly in the last decade.
a lull every seven minutes
A lull in the conversation, meaning that there is a lack of activity.
lull
1.暫時平息，暫時平靜[（+in）]
This is just the lull before the storm. 這只是暴風雨前的暫時平靜。
2.暫時呆滯時期
one-sided
to be short with ＋（person）
when somebody gives me short replies in a situation or in a conversation, I get
the idea that they're being short with me.
The ball is in your court. 球在你的主場；形容某人有主控權或決定權
I made the last offer, and now the ball is in your court.
the ball is in someone’s court 事情的發展就看下一步那個人怎麼決定
opportunity（n.）機會
Rachel has been given the opportunity to study in Paris next year.
The teacher gave her students every opportunity to speak English in class.
Troy values education because he never had the opportunity to go to college.
comment（v.）評論；發表意見
The newspaper commented on the content of the vice president’s speech.
Miles finally commented on the fight he and Colton had last week. 說出看法
comment（n.）
Our writing teacher gives good comments on every paper we hand in.給了很好的評價
to get the ball rolling（.）
you get something started
What do you do?
Tell me about yourself.
common ground 共同點，一致之處，共同基礎
invasive questions
relevant
oversharing 與人分享過多的個人資訊
